tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-816776549535168620.post370132245429940409..comments2022-11-17T04:48:42.746-05:00Comments on A garden for butterflies: AnnaBellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01614241329182982677noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-816776549535168620.post-68567759250300817222010-06-26T16:50:44.111-04:002010-06-26T16:50:44.111-04:00Everyone needs to have a good old cry fest once in...Everyone needs to have a good old cry fest once in a while. As you say, you have been through some super sucky times to put it mildly.<br /><br />I can only speak from my own experience but, the fact that G died, didn't make me want her sister less. They were different, my love for each of them was similar but separate. I think it might be similar if you were have to another baby? Another child would certainly not be Toren, nobody else ever can be, but it would be ok. I think it would be ok. <br /><br />Good luck with the new job plans. xCatherine Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01618295389400457254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-816776549535168620.post-51950337075971634172010-06-21T03:41:03.681-04:002010-06-21T03:41:03.681-04:00Phew... just catching up on missed blogposts while...Phew... just catching up on missed blogposts while I was slowed down... sorry you felt miserable. I suspect I need a good ol' cry-fest pretty soon. Haven't done that in a while and feel the pressure building up.<br /><br />I am with you on so many levels considering the "baby thoughts". Aside the fact that there's no snuggle bunny around here I still try to make up my mind what I want, how I feel and what I'll do in the future. Sigh... Single dead-baby-momma is a hard job.<br /><br />Crossing my fingers for your knee to heal good (and fast) and for that awesome, well-paid job that will for sure come around... xoxoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-816776549535168620.post-56887209041075827092010-06-19T22:00:51.537-04:002010-06-19T22:00:51.537-04:00Sounds like a great plan. :)Sounds like a great plan. :)Meghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06658154113502239383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-816776549535168620.post-21448462870292053782010-06-19T21:40:33.372-04:002010-06-19T21:40:33.372-04:00Yeesh, sounds like a new job is a good idea regard...Yeesh, sounds like a new job is a good idea regardless of your family-building future.<br /><br />So good to hear you sounding hopeful. I have a feeling that you will figure everything out as you need to.Quiet Dreamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13852998912734693621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-816776549535168620.post-11917403516594094332010-06-18T16:13:13.704-04:002010-06-18T16:13:13.704-04:00I can't even tell you how many times I wished...I can't even tell you how many times I wished that I had never learned to cry! It's such a silly wish, but I wished it, as I was sobbing, so many times!<br /><br />Kick ass, lady! I have NO doubt you'll do just that! <br />*HUGS*Beautiful Messhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02425541240465474148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-816776549535168620.post-78993202657961329992010-06-18T00:36:18.548-04:002010-06-18T00:36:18.548-04:00You deserve to be happy and it sounds like you hav...You deserve to be happy and it sounds like you have a plan to get you there. We will always miss our babies and the circumstance in which they left this earth will always be tragic and unfa ir. Who says you need a husband to become a mother.. Don't give up on your baby dreams. <br /><br />I'm willing lots of love and joy to come into your life in whatever form it comes in.<br /><br />Hugs.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-816776549535168620.post-89985055813238250402010-06-17T18:52:40.996-04:002010-06-17T18:52:40.996-04:00A cry fest can be exactly what we need. I think yo...A cry fest can be exactly what we need. I think you are wise to know that you won't be OK with doing extra work to cover for pregnant co-worker--and no, it's not being a bitch. You shouldn't have to cover anyway. You get to feel how you feel and you have a right to not allow others to decide for you what you can and will not do. <br /><br />Missing Toren with you and I agree with others; you'll always miss Toren and there's plenty of love for another child. <br /><br />May your plan come to fruition.caitsmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12526920268165723942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-816776549535168620.post-21308559434540725652010-06-17T12:16:15.870-04:002010-06-17T12:16:15.870-04:00i'm the same way...kids in general annoy me. ...i'm the same way...kids in general annoy me. but when i get to know them as people, i tend to like them as i like most people. and my own...well, no question...you will love your own because they will be amazing on their own, and because they will remind you of toren and what he was and could have been.<br /><br />part of what makes me sad about people not being able to have a living baby to parent for one reason or another (situational, physical, whatever) is that it really is a wonderful experience. i am glad you are thinking about ways to not miss out on it and that they are all within your power.<br /><br />i am sorry you were so sad the other day and that it hit you so hard.Rebahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16739267142330427759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-816776549535168620.post-86305382426498181432010-06-16T19:36:06.014-04:002010-06-16T19:36:06.014-04:00I'm sorry you were so sad. Big hugs for yeste...I'm sorry you were so sad. Big hugs for yesterday.<br /><br />I like this plan. Do it! <br /><br />xxSophiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17663682329663202706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-816776549535168620.post-17705901404523599762010-06-16T19:28:29.539-04:002010-06-16T19:28:29.539-04:00Ditto Debbie and Sara. A new child will not replac...Ditto Debbie and Sara. A new child will not replace Toren. You will love them both. A new child may also be very healing as well. Your plan sounds like a good one!CLChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08030787972960755420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-816776549535168620.post-85826068975635642442010-06-16T15:48:14.605-04:002010-06-16T15:48:14.605-04:00Yay! I love this! I think, as much as it will al...Yay! I love this! I think, as much as it will always hurt that you lost Toren, a new baby would be a definite source of joy for you. They are not mutually exclusive. Having another one will not mean that Toren didn't exist, it will simply mean that you have two.<br />You go girl!!!<br />xoxo,<br />debbiedebbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15838702962691821252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-816776549535168620.post-63780090313643765462010-06-16T10:19:47.969-04:002010-06-16T10:19:47.969-04:00I love that you have a plan!!
And no, another ba...I love that you have a plan!! <br /><br />And no, another baby will not be Toren but I know that you will love and cherish that child just as much as Toren. He's not special and wonderful because he didn't live; he's special and wonderful because he's YOURS. And you will feel that same way about another child.<br /><br />And I am one of those people who is not big on other people's kids (ones who aren't in my family, anyway), and I can't wait to be a mom. I think we'll do great. :)<br /><br />Good luck on moving up in the working world! I'm so excited for you.Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00668661473260475342noreply@blogger.com