tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-816776549535168620.post6687592754148785895..comments2022-11-17T04:48:42.746-05:00Comments on A garden for butterflies: The plan is in actionAnnaBellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01614241329182982677noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-816776549535168620.post-66927406338752307292010-07-05T13:49:16.133-04:002010-07-05T13:49:16.133-04:00I think the joint household account sounds like a ...I think the joint household account sounds like a great idea. Especially if deposits are made automatically.<br /><br />Also glad to hear your "happy voice" in this post.Quiet Dreamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13852998912734693621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-816776549535168620.post-78827240432970484302010-07-02T03:43:14.693-04:002010-07-02T03:43:14.693-04:00Happy non-engagement! I love your plan. Your list ...Happy non-engagement! I love your plan. Your list sounds healthy and well-planned. It's important that you're aware of your needs (eg spending time alone, welcome to the club) and worries. I like cdg's idea, for I would never ever share a bank-account with a man again. (I swear!)<br /><br />Plan in action. Exciting...<br /><br />xoxoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-816776549535168620.post-54877937682366982212010-06-30T20:12:29.429-04:002010-06-30T20:12:29.429-04:00We have a joint account to pay bills where we both...We have a joint account to pay bills where we both contribute the same percentage(~75%) of our paychecks since we make different amounts of money. Then we each have our own savings/checking where the remaining percentage goes. That way I can pay ridiculous amounts of money to get my hair higlighted without my husband questioning me, and he can play golf without me questioning him. It works well for us. Good luck with the moving in. This is all very exciting!CLChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08030787972960755420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-816776549535168620.post-31800647159938164422010-06-30T15:19:42.774-04:002010-06-30T15:19:42.774-04:00Yay! I'm over the moon excited for you, not j...Yay! I'm over the moon excited for you, not just for your plans but because I get to hear your happy voice coming through your blog! <br /><br />R and I have separate accounts (we have a joint household one, but never use it. We just divide the bills evenly) and we moved in w/ each other three months after we met, so I, of course, advocate for the head first dive. <br /><br />xoxodebbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15838702962691821252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-816776549535168620.post-69294659053279102712010-06-29T19:24:40.436-04:002010-06-29T19:24:40.436-04:00Sometimes you just have to jump in headfirst! Thi...Sometimes you just have to jump in headfirst! This is really exciting. Go for it.<br />xxSophiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17663682329663202706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-816776549535168620.post-17361216309449672992010-06-29T16:05:34.660-04:002010-06-29T16:05:34.660-04:00Ooh this is rather exciting! Happy non-engagement!...Ooh this is rather exciting! Happy non-engagement!<br /><br />About 2 weeks after we got together Ray casually said, "I think we'll probably get engaged won't we?" And a few minutes after I got my breath back he added, "And I think we'd make good parents don't you?" (We'd known each other for 5 months before, through work.)<br /><br />What I mean to say is, don't worry about timing, if it feels right then go for it.<br /><br />I think the neutral bank account is a great idea.<br /><br />xxxBarbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01484695553612265127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-816776549535168620.post-28154761112826561812010-06-29T15:16:44.256-04:002010-06-29T15:16:44.256-04:00I was going to suggest the joint household account...I was going to suggest the joint household account. I know many many couples it had worked for. And as far as time together, Sam and i were engaged six months after we met and got pregnant twelve. It isn't that fast. We, perhaps, did things quickly, but we were ready. And, even though it is scary, it sounds like you are ready too. Congratulations on this new phase with SB. Sounds like you know what your snags might be--needing alone time, financial, etc. Remember your ex left you scrambling. If the worst happens and he leaves, you know what to do and how to do it. And you have many people who will help you, including me with my hand raised, in any way I can. xostill life angiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15150141781089602529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-816776549535168620.post-46013502266693576572010-06-29T14:52:55.534-04:002010-06-29T14:52:55.534-04:00Yay! How wonderful for you both!
I think your wor...Yay! How wonderful for you both!<br /><br />I think your worries will melt away once you have some time to let this sink in, and to have some more talks with him to figure out logistics. Ron and I have never shared a bank account - we have separate accounts and just pay for different bills. I know you guys can work it out. <br /><br />One more time: YAY!!!!!!!!!!Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00668661473260475342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-816776549535168620.post-76990834931993626462010-06-29T14:29:05.183-04:002010-06-29T14:29:05.183-04:00cgd, I love that idea! Yes, if we both contribute...cgd, I love that idea! Yes, if we both contribute to a "neutral" account then it won't feel like he is paying me personally.<br /><br />I knew my blogging friends would have good ideas :)<br /><br />Thank you cgd for the advice and encouragement.AnnaBellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01614241329182982677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-816776549535168620.post-78013994674224539592010-06-29T12:32:31.731-04:002010-06-29T12:32:31.731-04:00Wow, this is so exciting.
I know some people tha...Wow, this is so exciting. <br />I know some people that have a joint bank account for household expenses only. Each one contributes to this account monthly so bills can get paid, but they have separate saving accounts and the money gets transfered automatically into the shared account monthly. This might help it feel less like he is paying rent to you and more like you are a family.<br />Living together first sounds like a great idea.<br />I think it is amazing that you have not given up on your dream of a family and a baby. You deserve that.cdghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13174907373129154516noreply@blogger.com